๐๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง
๐ฏ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐
๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐โ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐-๐๐๐๐๐๐โ๐๐๐
๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐
๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐ ๐๐๐-๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐?
On the flip side, have you ever entered a room where connection, fun, and collaboration seemed to flow effortlessly?
The difference between these two scenarios often lies in whether the group is ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐๐ or ๐๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐๐.
๐๐ง๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง
Our nervous system operates in three primary states, profoundly shaping how we show up and interact:
1. ๐๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐๐ ๐๐ญ๐๐ญ๐: This is our "flow state"โa calm, comfortable, and safe way of being. In this state, creativity, joy, connection, and balance thrive.
2. ๐๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ซ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐๐ ๐๐ญ๐๐ญ๐: Dysregulation happens when we leave that safe zone. Sometimes, we seek this state voluntarily (e.g., chasing thrills like roller coasters). At other times, external triggersโlike unexpected criticism or conflictโpush us into discomfort, eroding our sense of safety in mind and body.
3. ๐๐จ-๐๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ญ๐๐ ๐๐ญ๐๐ญ๐: Co-regulation occurs when people create an environment of mutual safety, understanding, and support. Itโs a shared experience that builds trust and alignment.
๐๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ง๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง
As leaders, itโs crucial to prioritize being ๐บ๐ฌ๐ณ๐ญ-๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐
- calm, clear, compassionate, and confident in your own regulated state. This is the foundation of a psychologically safe environment, where individuals and teams can thrive.
When we show up regulated, we unconsciously invite others to do the same. Our presence can either amplify tension or create calm, setting the emotional tone for our teams. Emotional intelligence and self-awareness are no longer optionalโthey are essential leadership tools in todayโs world.
๐๐ฎ๐๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐จ๐ซ๐:
- How can you ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ with and regulate your own nervous system before high-stakes situations?
- What regular ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ can you adopt to build a resilient and regulated nervous system?
- How can you ๐๐๐๐๐๐ co-regulation and safety within your team or organization?
The key to effective leadership of today is about creating a safe space where others can thrive. And that will always begin with being SELF-centered so you can extend that stability to those around you.
